Second, they often forget to tend to their own respective souls. No Christian husband serves his wife’s soul if he is not tending to his own—and likewise for the wife. As a pastor, if I do not readily seek holiness and delight in Christ, I have little to offer those I serve. It proves the same for the Christian husband or wife. We cannot give what we do not have. If we would see our spouse more readily pursue Christ, we must pursue Christ. If we desire our spouse to become more holy, we must become more holy. If we want to see more love in our spouse, we must become more loving.
Third, apathy often descends when disillusionment takes hold. When we married, we wed a fallen human being. Expect the fruit of it. If we married a blind person, we wouldn’t burn in anger when he couldn’t watch the sunset with us. If we married a handicapped person, we wouldn’t be filled with disdain because she couldn’t go on jogs with us. You knew what to expect. Every Christian husband or wife married a weak vessel. Expect the fruit of weakness. There are daily failings, faults, and sins. As it is true for you, so it is with your spouse. Look past much and forgive even more.
Finally, apathy makes a miscalculation. None of us undertakes something arduous unless we are convinced that the thing we seek is worth the effort. Christian marriage is worth it. Every effort you make plants a seed for eternity. It is never wasted, and the rewards are sweet and good. Don’t settle into marital apathy. If you are already there, it is time to repent and recommit. It is worth it.